How To Find Work You Love — And Why Most People Don’t Try
When kids are very little we tell them “Be whoever you want to be!” but as kids get older, the message changes.
By the time most kids are in middle school, the adults around them have begun teaching them to be practical. Little by little kids stop believing that their grandest dreams can come true.
Some kids grow up without losing their faith in themselves — or their belief that they can accomplish whatever they want to accomplish and become whoever they want to be. What’s different about those kids?
Maybe the kids who hang onto their dreams have support from their family members, who tell them not to give up on their most audacious plans.
Maybe they faced adversity early on and overcame it, learning in the process that most of the obstacles we face are not as formidable as we have been led to believe they are.
Maybe the kids who never give up on their dreams are kids who just don’t care what other people think. It takes guts to depart from the standard path: Go to school, get good grades, find a good job and keep it whether you like the job, or not.
It takes courage to say “I want to make my own path!”
At any working age it is possible to move closer to your dreams, find work that celebrates you, and run your career like the business it is.
Your career is a business just as surely as any multinational corporation is. It is your ship to steer — but only if you know how much power you possess!
The first step in finding work that will ask more of you — making use of your talents, personality and passion — and also give you back more than a paycheck is to give yourself permission to dream again.
As adults we can feel foolish or exposed when we allow ourselves to dream really big — the way we used to do when we were kids. But without a big dream to follow, how could anyone take the big steps that will move them into the life and career they want?
The first step is to give yourself permission to create a vision for your life and career.
I’m not talking about setting goals — that comes much later. In the absence of a vision for your life, goals are nothing more than items on your to-do list. To find work you love, you have to get outside your comfort zone and create a vision for your life and career.
Here’s how to do it:
1. Get a journal and start writing in it. Write about what you want in your life and career. Don’t censor yourself. If you want to act in the movies, write it down. Many famous actors started acting later in their lives — here’s a list of some of them. If you want to run a business, explore your creative side, have more money or change your location – write it down!
2. Accept and embrace the fact that everything that has happened in your life so far was meant to happen just as it did. When we complain about our circumstances (stupid job, bad boss, etc.) and look at our current situation as hopeless, embarrassing or less than we deserve, we create our own obstacles to success. Successful people can say “I don’t like my life right now. Oh well – that’s okay. I’m not a victim of it. I can change it. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe the hardships I’ve experienced needed to happen so that I could finally focus on changing my life for the better.”
3. Spell out your vision for your life in as much detail as you can. “One day I want to work on Wall Street” is not a vision. Get very granular. I tell my students to picture the clothes they’ll be wearing when they walk onstage to accept the award they earned for whatever great achievement they have in mind. Picture the auditorium, the audience and the person who presents you with the award. The more clearly you see your own future, the easier it will be for you to steer in the direction you want.
4. Recognize that the reason most of us don’t shoot for our dreams is that it’s scary to do so. We may have people around us saying “Who do you think you are? You’re no one special. Who are you to have big dreams?” Those people don’t deserve to be part of your vision. Don’t tell anyone about your plans except for people who support you in your quest. You might decide to tell no one about your vision, and that’s fine.
5. As your vision takes shape, look at its place in your life from altitude — that is, with perspective. The first response our fearful brains serve up when we create a grand vision is “That vision is impractical! It would take you years to reach it!” So what? That’s all we have — years. We have time, or at least we hope to. What else would we do with our time apart from working toward our vision? Get up above your day-to-day struggles and see your path going back to your birth and stretching out to the horizon. Once you see it, you can take your path wherever you want it to go!
6. Now, put together a plan to move into the career and life you want. Lay out the steps. Some of them will be short-term objectives. Some will take longer. Here’s an example to guide you.
Article source: Forbes.com